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Monday, 05/24/21, 1:03pm
eydebaol-com posted an update in the group
The Lounge Monday, 05/24/21, 1:03pm · Hello. I am currently casting a national commercial being directed by Joey Soloway (the creator of Transparent). We are looking for transgender kids (5-15). The commercial is to highlight transgender kids in sports. The audition would entail making a very short (30 second) video talking about their love/passion for a sport (dance, basketball, running, swimming…anything!). If anyone is interested, please feel free to email me directly at [email protected] for additional information. We are moving very quickly and hope to have all tapes in by tomorrow (Tuesday). Look forward to hearing from you. Eyde [email protected]
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Thursday, 05/20/21, 11:04am
aerin-riegelsberger posted an update in the group
The Lounge Thursday, 05/20/21, 11:04am · You are invited to participate in a short survey for California educators about gender diversity, trans and gender-diverse terminology, and trans-inclusion. The term “educators” includes teachers, administrators, librarians, and anyone else supporting the learning of youth. This survey is part of an international study entitled Supporting Trans and Gender Diverse Youth in Schools: Policy and Practice and is conducted by Dr. Wayne Martino at Western University. If survey respondents wish to partake in a follow-up interview, participants may provide their email address at the end of the survey.
This survey is anonymous, and the information collected will be used for research purposes only. If you would like to participate in the study you can follow the link below to the survey portal.
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/35ZMLGW
Any questions about this study can be directed to the Office of Human Research Ethics, Western University at 519-661-3036 or [email protected] or the Principal Investigator, Wayne Martino, at 519 661-2111 ext. 88593 or [email protected].
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Thursday, 04/29/21, 6:28am
junia posted an update in the group
The Lounge Thursday, 04/29/21, 6:28am · Hi, new here. You can call me Junia, she/her. I’m figuring out how to support my daughter. I’ve watched her learn to articulate her gender identity over the last few years, and she’s recently asked to go by exclusively female pronouns (she was assigned male at birth). She also just turned five. A new horizon, but I’m determined to learn as much as I can and support her on her journey.
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Friday, 04/09/21, 8:33am
rinthehuman posted an update in the group
The Lounge Friday, 04/09/21, 8:33am · Hello everybody, I just wanted to make an entrance here and ask for advice. My name is Rin because I can’t come up with anything better than the end of my bio name. I’d really like to go by a different name but I don’t want to have to try to make people change again. I go by all, she/he/they, although I prefer they/them. No one seems to really care about my preference though, everyone calls me by my biological pronouns because I look the most like them… even though that’s not really my choice. If I could describe my gender, as I don’t really use a label, I use the umbrella term, non-binary. My gender fluctuates, but 75% of the time I want to be perceived as neutral, but that doesn’t really work in my favor most of the time. Even though I’ve identified as non binary for a couple of years now, I’m still learning what that means for me. I don’t really enforce it and I’d like some advice on how I can start moving in that direction without being rude. I’m introverted and I have anxiety and depression, so that makes it even more difficult. I’m willing to talk to people, and would highly appreciate some advice and guidance on how I can start being myself more.
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Thursday, 04/08/21, 11:37am
laurynh posted an update in the group
The Lounge Thursday, 04/08/21, 11:37am · Hi! My name is Blue (he/they) (ignore my username) and I was wondering if anyone knows about Russell Sassani? I’m thinking about seeing him for top surgery, but I want to make sure of things before ei go ahead with it. Also, does anyone know if he operates on minors as I am 16? Thanks!! 🙂
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Sunday, 03/28/21, 10:42am
thrallcat posted an update in the group
The Lounge Sunday, 03/28/21, 10:42am · Hi! 11yo (ftm) just came out to his dad and I a week ago. We’re supportive, and have so much to learn. He’s only chosen to come out to us and my parents right now, so we’re having to be super careful to use his new preferred pronouns only in front of certain people. He doesn’t want to come out at school yet.
We want to let him take the lead and set the pace, and we also feel like we’re in a weird waiting place. We’d love to find him other similar pre-teens to connect with. I’d also love to connect with other moms who have walked through this.-
It’s indeed a weird position. Only a few people know abouty trans daughter. So at home it’s she and in public he. I found this so jarring, I asked her if she minded me using they/them in public. Way less jarring, it just felt disrespectful.
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I found myself dropping gender pronouns for my other kids and just referring to everyone by their name constantly.
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Wednesday, 03/24/21, 1:21pm
eliconley posted an update in the group
The Lounge Wednesday, 03/24/21, 1:21pm · Hi folks! My name is Eli Conley. I am a queer and trans singer-songwriter and teaching artist. I’m offering an online songwriting class for queer and trans teens ages 14 – 18, and I would love to have you/your kids join me!
Our Own Songs: Songwriting Class for Queer & Trans Teens
Tuesdays April 20th – May 18th, 2021
4 – 5:30 pm Pacific / 7 – 8:30 pm Eastern
Online on ZoomEveryone has songs inside of them. What do yours sound like? Join us to unlock your creativity and let your songs out! This is a supportive online community class for queer and transgender teens ages 14 – 18. Whether you’re totally new to songwriting or you’ve been writing for years, this class will get your creative juices flowing! We’ll analyze songs by artists you love to understand how their music takes us on an emotional journey, and learn how to put our own stories into song. We will also explore the way that chords, melody, and lyrics come together, and learn strategies to strengthen each of these elements of our songwriting. On the last day we’ll have a closing concert to celebrate!
About the Teacher: Eli Conley is a singer-songwriter and teaching artist based in Sacramento, California. As a gay transgender man, Eli has a deep commitment to working within diverse queer and trans communities to build collective power, creativity, and resilience. http://www.eliconley.com
Wanna try it out? Come to a free online songwriting workshop for queer and trans teens ages 14 – 18 on Tuesday, April 6th, 4:30 – 5:30 pm PST / 7:30 – 8:30 pm EST.
More Info: http://…[Read more]
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Saturday, 02/27/21, 3:11pm
joannajoplin posted an update in the group
The Lounge Saturday, 02/27/21, 3:11pm · Hi – I’m new here as well. My son (FtoM) came out originally a few weeks ago as non-binary, but last night decided he was trans. He is 10. He has never shown any outward signs of gender dysphoria until now – he loved barbies, princess movies, jewelry, makeup, etc. I’m having a hard time with it given how sudden it seems to me. If anyone has had a similar experience I’d love to hear from you.
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Hi! My 11yo (ftm) also just came out, I’d be interested in connecting to chat. We’re very supportive of him, but like you said, it feels sudden. 🧡
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Monday, 02/08/21, 9:44pm
mattthehall posted an update in the group
The Lounge Monday, 02/08/21, 9:44pm · Hi, I am new here. My son (FtoM) just came out this weekend. I’d like to join the dad’s group, and it is my understanding that I’m supposed to ask here to do so. Please let me know how to join it, thanks!
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Tuesday, 01/19/21, 3:59pm
jenrobin posted an update in the group
The Lounge Tuesday, 01/19/21, 3:59pm · Hi all, I am new here and a little lost. My 14 year old came out as trans just a few days ago and I am really struggling. I am devastated and I can’t understand why. I have friends that are trans and it has never bothered me but now I feel like I’m losing my daughter and I am finding myself crying a lot when I’m alone. I can’t even bring myself to switch pronouns because my brain just can’t process what’s happening. I don’t know who to talk to or what to do. All I know is that I want my child to be happy and I want my home to be a safe place to express who she really is. I haven’t been emotional when she’s around because I don’t want her to feel like she has to protect me or my emotions. I would love to speak to someone that has been where I’m at.
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Hi! My name is Blue (ignore my username) and I am also trans (non binary)! I can understand how change is devastating. It can feel like the person you know/knew is no longer that person. But coming out as transgender is just an affirmation of who they have always been! Talking to your child about how you feel would be the best route, as they would be able to explain to you who they are! Using the correct pronouns (the ones they decided to use from now on) is also very helpful, especially for the child. It alleviates a lot of dysphoria (basically where you don’t feel like you were born in the right gender and don’t like how your body looks). Most transgender people have dysphoria!
Also, by not being emotional around them, it sounds like that’s a way for YOU to protect THEIR emotions, so it might be stressing you out just as much as you’re afraid it would stress your kid out.
It’s really great that you want them to feel at home and safe, though! That can be really important for transgender people (some don’t have that kind of support). I haven’t necessarily been where you’re at, but I have been where your child is at. I would be happy to connect with them if needed, and I can set you up with my parents if you need that perspective as well!
Hope this helps :))
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Thursday, 01/14/21, 12:15pm
butterfly1999 posted an update in the group
The Lounge Thursday, 01/14/21, 12:15pm · Hi! I am new to Gender Spectrum, and the lounge. I am the mom of an 11-year old who identifies as gender fluid. She, (and I), are hoping to connect with others who are, or already have, navigated the same journey. Any ideas on how I can find others that would be interested in connecting as well? Because she isn’t a teen yet, it seems that options are limited. Thanks in advance!!
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I’ll respond to you by PM.
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Thursday, 01/14/21, 9:01am
thomas posted an update in the group
The Lounge Thursday, 01/14/21, 9:01am · Hello all,
I am new to this forum. My trans daughter Sam (born male) let me know she was trans about 9 months ago. I have been struggling greatly as a parent and would love to connect with other dads of trans daughters. I would also like to connect Sam with other trans peers so that she does not feel so alone. Please PM me. Thank you.-
Hey Thomas, I’ll shoot you a note right now.
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Hey! My name is Blue (he/they and 16 yo), and I am trans masculine (non binary but leaning male) and assigned female at birth! I would love to connect with Sam if that’s okay! My father may also be available and I can provide you with his contact if needed!
Hope this helps :))
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Friday, 12/04/20, 9:34am
melissa posted an update in the group
The Lounge Friday, 12/04/20, 9:34am · melissa uploaded new file(s): flyer_fall_winter9_2020-3.pdf to The Lounge
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Friday, 12/04/20, 9:34am
melissa posted an update in the group
The Lounge Friday, 12/04/20, 9:34am · Hi,
Dr Karen Bluth is doing a mindful self-compassion study with trans and gender expansive teens in January 2021. It is 8 online sessions, via Zoom, and free! If you are interested, please contact us at [email protected]. I’ve also attached the study flyer.
Thanks!
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Friday, 12/04/20, 9:34am
melissa uploaded the file: Self-compassion study for Trans and Gender Expansive Teens to
The Lounge Friday, 12/04/20, 9:34am · Hi,
Dr Karen Bluth is doing a mindful self-compassion study with trans and gender expansive teens in January 2021. It is 8 online sessions, via Zoom, and free! If you are interested, please contact us at [email protected]. I’ve also attached the study flyer.
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Sunday, 11/22/20, 4:55pm
emmiematsuno posted an update in the group
The Lounge Sunday, 11/22/20, 4:55pm · Hello! I’m Dr. Em Matsuno and I am a nonbinary-identified postdoctoral fellow at Palo Alto University in California. I’m researching an online program for parents of trans youth. Please see my message below and share with others who may be interested!
Are you a parental figure of a child who identifies as trans or nonbinary? Consider getting support from the Parent Support Program. This program is based on psychological research and can help support you through your process. The program is currently being studied for its effectiveness. Click the link below for more information and to participate in the study.
Bit.ly/pspstudy
Or check out the study facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/parentsupportpsp
You must be the parent or primary caregiver of a trans or nonbinary child between 10 and 24 years of age to participate.
By participating you will receive either a $10 Amazon gift card or $10 Target gift card for completing a one month follow up survey and another $10 gift card for completing a two-month follow up survey. Alternately, you will have the option to donate your earnings to Gender Spectrum, a nonprofit that supports parents of trans youth.
Participants will be randomly assigned to complete the Parents Support Program or to wait for one month to complete the program. The Parent Support Program is an online program with 3 modules that include videos, educational materials, and writing activities designed to support parents of trans youth. All participants will be asked to complete a series of questionnaires prior to completing the p…[Read more]
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Monday, 10/12/20, 4:44pm
rocky posted an update in the group
The Lounge Monday, 10/12/20, 4:44pm · Do any insurance companies cover gender affirmation surgery for patients under 18 years old? This would be bottom surgery for our daughter to transition from male to female.
Also, are there some insurance companies that are better to deal with than others when it comes to this? I plan to change jobs soon and would like to take their health plan into consideration when choosing my next company to work for.
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Friday, 09/25/20, 10:26am
melissa posted an update in the group
The Lounge Friday, 09/25/20, 10:26am · Hi, all,
I’m working with Dr Karen Bluth on a study about a self-compassion program for trans and gender expansive teens. We’re looking for more participants for our next online program, which starts October 12th, 2020!
Self-compassion has been shown to help teens deal with stress in a healthier way, and we’d love to reach trans and gender expansive teens with this program.
Please contact us if you’re interested, and I’ll send you the flyer and answer any questions!
Melissa
[email protected]
919-966-0537-
Hello! I’m very interested in this program. Would you prefer contacting me or my parents?
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Hi,ilikeonions104, I’m sorry I didn’t see this till now! I’m happy to talk to both you and your parents. If you send us an email at [email protected], I can send you more information about the study and set up a time to talk. Thanks,
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Will do!
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Wednesday, 09/23/20, 6:19pm
ilikeonions104 posted an update in the group
The Lounge Wednesday, 09/23/20, 6:19pm · Hi guys! So I’ve been really thinking about changing my name again, but the thing is everyone I know has just gotten used to “Sam”. even my school district knows me by this (on my report cards, etc) I’ve asked for them to call me a different name, but everyone says I already chose a name. What do I do??? any response is welcome!
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Hi, I’m new here and I was scrolling and saw this. I know this is easier to say than to do, but just because other people are “used to that name”, doesn’t mean you don’t have the right to change it. It is your name, and if you dislike it, then you are allowed to change it, and others should respect that. It sounds lowkey harsh, but sometimes you got to be harsh to get respect. No one has the right to push you around just because, “we’ve gotten used to that name, so we’re going to make life easier on us instead of keeping you happy and feeling accepted.” Hope this was helpful!
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Tuesday, 09/22/20, 2:14pm
ilikeonions104 posted an update in the group
The Lounge Tuesday, 09/22/20, 2:14pm · Hey everybody! So I’m having a lot of trouble right now in the family department. My grandpa (my dad’s dad) Is a kinda a misogynistic racist bigot, but I see him yearly. I don’t think I can be around him if he can’t call me Sam or he/him. I didn’t come out to him yet, because my dad isn’t ready to lose him (His dad has always been a mean person, but my dad still loves him even thought they fight a lot lmao). Are there any suggestions or tips? Anything would be nice. Thanks!
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hi, Rin! I’m Blue :), nice to meet you! I’m also non binary and I use he/they pronouns. I started enforcing it by just putting my pronouns in my social media bios, and I might suggest that if you’re comfortable with it. my next step was introducing myself as my new name to strangers (some people feel more comfy starting with close friends and family, some with strangers, it all depends), and found that pretty okay. everyone I’ve encountered has just said okay and used my pronouns and name with no problems yet. in emails I send I’ll introduce myself like this: Blue (he/they) so that they know right off the bat. hope this helps!